Henry James to Grace Norton, July 28th, 1883
I don't know why we live—the gift of life comes to us from I don't know
what source or for what purpose; but I believe we can go on living for
the reason that (always of course up to a certain point) life is the
most valuable thing we know anything about and it is therefore
presumptively a great mistake to surrender it while there is any yet
left in the cup. In other words consciousness is an illimitable power,
and though at times it may seem to be all consciousness of misery, yet
in the way it propagates itself from wave to wave, so that we never
cease to feel, though at moments we appear to, try to, pray to, there is
something that holds one in one's place, makes it a standpoint in the
universe which it is probably good not to forsake. You are right in your
consciousness that we are all echoes and reverberations of the same,
and you are noble when your interest and pity as to everything that
surrounds you, appears to have a sustaining and harmonizing power. Only
don't, I beseech you, generalize too much in these sympathies
and tendernesses—remember that every life is a special problem which is
not yours but another's, and content yourself with the terrible algebra
of your own. Don't melt too much into the universe, but be as solid and
dense and fixed as you can. We all live together, and those of us who
love and know, live so most. We help each other—even unconsciously, each
in our own effort, we lighten the effort of others, we contribute to
the sum of success, make it possible for others to live. Sorrow comes in
great waves—no one can know that better than you—but it rolls over us,
and though it may almost smother us it leaves us on the spot and we know
that if it is strong we are stronger, inasmuch as it passes and we
remain. It wears us, uses us, but we wear it and use it in return; and
it is blind, whereas we after a manner see.